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Uni is a unique time when you are surrounded by like minded individuals who all want to make something of their life. So naturally you'll see a lot of people having businesses, being athletes, aspiring singers, models etc and in this midst of so much success it can be disheartening in a way. Everyone appears to be flourishing and getting exciting new opportunities and if you haven't found your thing yet it can seem like you're falling behind the crowd. To this I say don't worry, a key part of uni and transitioning into adulthood is learning more about yourself and what you want for your future. It's a time to gain ideas from people and meet potential collaborators but it is also a good time to try out different things, pursue something that scares you because even if you fail at it, you have time to recover. I know what it's like to look at your peers and feel like you're not doing anything or to look at them doing well in something your interested i...

I think one of the most important things about self confidence is not just building it up to begin with but it is learning how to retain it. It's no use gaining all of this self love if it's not based on a strong foundation. On the internet there are thousands of videos, blog posts, articles etc that will give tips on how to gain it. 

Some of you are probably wondering what the hell an ambivert even is, well it's someone who is in between being an extrovert and an introvert. When people call me quiet or shy it really rubs me the wrong way because to me it paints the picture that I'm timid and someone who is easy to walk all over - which isn't the case. But to say I'm the loudest one in the room or the personality you first recognise would be untruthful as well. I'm not afraid to admit that I HATE small talk and I'd actually rather just be there in silence than make conversation that neither of us actually care about. So if when I see you I don't ask you if you're alright it's not because I'm rude or I don't care, it's mostly because I don't particularly like small talk so I'm not going to be the one to initiate it.

When I was 12 I wrote a letter to my parents telling them how I was grown and should be allowed to date; looking back at that now its laughable to think I actually thought I was grown but even at 20 now it may be laughable for me to consider myself 100% grown. All the 'adults' say growing up in this era is the toughest it's even been what with the constant pressure from social media, school and the world. One thing I love about this era is the fact that so many people are proactive in achieving their dreams, you no longer have to go to university, graduate and be a low level worker at a job for a few years before you have the chance to do a job you actually want to. This is the age of creating the perfect job for yourself even though it may not exist right now, having multiple jobs so you can pursue all your interests and the age where working for someone else is no longer the goal.

When someone asks me where I'm from, I'm almost always confused and almost always ask a follow up question. This could be a simple question to a 'traditionally english' person but for someone like me this has a lot of added meaning. Am I supposed to say what area I live in or my ethnic background, are you asking me if I'm from Essex or if I'm Nigerian.

My experience growing up was a strange one to say the least, I went to a really good school so naturally it contained 98% white people. Me being a young black girl being brought up in this environment was definetly a challenge and it took me awhile to find myself. All my life I've had to deal with being seen as an oreo by black people but too black for the white people. Yeah I had all the common issues, whenever I would get my hair done, I would be asked if my hair had grown overnight, how I wash my hair with my braids in and general annoying questions. As a general rule if you have some questions about black hair don't ask me because I ain't gonna be the one to educate you, the only comment you should have on my hair is that it looks nice or just don't comment. One thing I am thankful about is that I went to a mostly black youth club, because this is where I got exposed to black culture, something I was highly deficient of in school Because I was so used ...

Now I would call myself a Power fan but with that in mind I've tried to be as objective as possible. One thing that we can't deny is that the show does not portray black people in the best light shows the destruction of the black family portrays that even successful black people can't reach those levels without criminal activity shows darkskinned woman left for lightskin foreign woman

brief description I think one of the main reasons I like the show is that it is a portrayl of the different stages of life people can be in, in their 20s. As someone not yet at that age level it is somewhat comforting to know that it's okay not to have everything together and that some people take longer than others to achieve their goals. I believe in this generation where you can tangiably see other people's succeses constantly bombarding you it can be easy to measure where your life is in comparison to theirs which is not always a healthy practice. Another thing the show champions which is the vital core is that of female friendships and learning to navigate your life. 

Now I'm not going to pretend I havent been on the bandwagon for some of these cancellings of people but at the time I never really pondered the overall impact fostering a culture like this could have on society. It seems like every day there's a new person being dragged all across timeline with thousands of previous fans now vowing to never support their work again. On the one hand some of these people have done horrible things, such as people who have perpetrated sexual assault or have been discriminatory towards people. The cancelling of people such as this doesn't bother me as there work doesn't deserve to be supported. However increasingly there seems to be the resurfacing of old tweets that shows some celebrities saying offensive things. Often times this was years ago and they claim to have grown since then and no longer share these views. I'm sure that a lot of the ignorant things we thought when we were younger we no longer think now and we can all recogni...

Let me just admit that I was completely awful at this in first year. It's not because I don't love all my old friends it's just that it's easy to get wrapped up in the uni bubble and forget that there's people who exist outside this. I've heard of some people whose friendship groups were solid for yeears- I'm talking early secondary school days whose groups completely fell apart once everyone went to uni or maybe one person from the group completely falling off the map. To me this is quite sad, uni is a time to grow and find yourself and maybe here you have found friends who you genuinely have a lot in common with not just that they were the people you could tolerate the most at your school. Going away and having that distance between friends can sometimes make you wonder if you were friends because you actually got along or if it was just because you saw each other all day everyday. I must admit I sometimes have the habit of severing ties or friendship...

One of the most important tools in having good cash flow is the ability to make and maintain a budget. However a lot of people don't even know where to start or don't have the right mindset to keep it up. Lucky for you I'm going to break down how to create a budget today. 1. Work out your expenses- This may take awhile to do if you are the kind of person who makes a lot of impulse purchases or who has a varying amount of money coming in each money. However for the rest of us this should be simple enough to do. As a teenager most of your money will be spent on going out so a handy tip is to keep the receipts from when you go places or buy things. This can help you to then add up how much you've spent this month and also help to find out how much you spend each month on average. Once you have this number you can really start to put your budget together. 2. Work out your income- Income for those of you who don't know is the amount of money you have coming in eac...

Many people spend thousands of pounds every year on going to wealth conferences but luckily for you I'm going to explain one of their most taught processes that helps aid you in becoming wealthy. It is called speaking wealth into your life or a mantra and I will be sharing a few of the benefits of having one. A mantra is simply a few statements that you recite every morning when you wake up that helps put you in the right a frame of mind. (I will be talking about how the way you think about money influences the amount you will get next week, so be looking out for that). It is almost like a reminder of what you want to achieve. Writing a mantra is quite easy but first you have to identify which financial goals you want to achieve. If you want to be financially free then a mantra you could say is "I am financially free and I have no debts" . By saying this every morning it helps you to truly believe it and get more into the rich person mindset. It can also inspire you ...

To do lists, a lot of people have them and a lot of people don't complete them, but is there a reason why a substantial amount of the most successful people stress the need to have and complete one. Well I'm here today  to explain to you why they are so important. 1. Without a  to do list you have no action plan- A to do list helps you to visualize and set out what you are going to accomplish. Without one it's like trying to make a movie with no script and there's a reason why most movies have one. Having a to do should be like having a set of steps which lead up to what you are hoping to accomplish for the day; by having easy to understand steps it can make a  big task seem a lot smaller than it actually is which is a good thing for all you procrastinators. 2. It's holds you accountable- Writing on a piece of paper is quite a permanent thing, which means that having a to do list will keep you accountable. It's so easy to "forget" to do somethin...

Now I'm not talking about the boys that are sneaky, the ones that seem so sweet and innocent and then rip out your heart. No I'm talking about the bait ones, the ones who your friend has told you is trash, your sister, your friends friend, your cousins nephew, everyone has basically told you but you still go for them. You should be ashamed of yourself. A lot of girls seem to be wrapped up in the fantasy of changing a guy, being the one that he changes for but this shouldn't be the aim. Sure if you meet a guy that's trash and he's willing to change for you that's great but I'm personally looking for the ones that have already changed before meeting me or that don't need to change because they were never trash. The trouble with dating former trash is that you're their experiment, old habits die hard and whether they slip up or you believe they still might that's going to put a strain on the relationship. If they've never been in a relation...

I didn't even tell people I was a christian because I didn't feel like one or act like one and I didn't want to give them a bad name. Am I not meant to wear that revealing outfit to the motive, am I not meant to drink, should I just stay in all the time and only associate with true believers. But what if that doesn't feel authentic to me 

Recently I saw a post on Instagram saying that what kind of guys you get approached by can be dependent on the type of hairstyle you have.

This whole story happened because of some benches. Deep it, some benches and chairs. Basically we were at youth camp and in all our chalets there were some chairs inside and benches outside. The boys and the girls both liked to all hang out, outside the chalets but there weren't enough seats so they would steal each other's chairs. One day while all the boys were gone the girls quickly went and took all their benches and chairs. When the boys saw what happened they all went into their chalets and started grabbing pots, pans, cups, water guns anything they could use against and naturally a water fight broke out. //sidenote I went back to my chalet to get some more resources for the girls and got spotted by one of the boys who poured a big tub of water all over me. I really took a fat L that day// Now because half of the girls fancied the mandem and wanted to look cute in front of them instead of winning the water fight we all got trapped in some of the girls chalet. There w...

When I was younger I used to go to a youth club and I did a days work experience there where I met this girl who I'll call 'K'. Me and K quickly became best friends and we went to this youth club every week. One week K didn't turn up and I didn't think anything of it, it was unusual but I just thought maybe she was ill or just tired. It was getting to the end of the youth club and K's mum turns up, frantically asking people if they've seen her. K's mum was very strict and barely let her daughter go anywhere and she also worked at K's school so she never got to do much, because of this I didn't take her serious at first when she said K was missing. As she'd start panicking if her daughter didn't message her every half an hour. Often before the youth club K would meet up with this guy she was seeing but she'd either tell me about it beforehand or she'd only be a little bit late to the youth club. I thought she probably just went ...