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I think one of the most important things about self confidence is not just building it up to begin with but it is learning how to retain it. It's no use gaining all of this self love if it's not based on a strong foundation. On the internet there are thousands of videos, blog posts, articles etc that will give tips on how to gain it. 

Some of you are probably wondering what the hell an ambivert even is, well it's someone who is in between being an extrovert and an introvert. When people call me quiet or shy it really rubs me the wrong way because to me it paints the picture that I'm timid and someone who is easy to walk all over - which isn't the case. But to say I'm the loudest one in the room or the personality you first recognise would be untruthful as well. I'm not afraid to admit that I HATE small talk and I'd actually rather just be there in silence than make conversation that neither of us actually care about. So if when I see you I don't ask you if you're alright it's not because I'm rude or I don't care, it's mostly because I don't particularly like small talk so I'm not going to be the one to initiate it.

When I was 12 I wrote a letter to my parents telling them how I was grown and should be allowed to date; looking back at that now its laughable to think I actually thought I was grown but even at 20 now it may be laughable for me to consider myself 100% grown. All the 'adults' say growing up in this era is the toughest it's even been what with the constant pressure from social media, school and the world. One thing I love about this era is the fact that so many people are proactive in achieving their dreams, you no longer have to go to university, graduate and be a low level worker at a job for a few years before you have the chance to do a job you actually want to. This is the age of creating the perfect job for yourself even though it may not exist right now, having multiple jobs so you can pursue all your interests and the age where working for someone else is no longer the goal.

When someone asks me where I'm from, I'm almost always confused and almost always ask a follow up question. This could be a simple question to a 'traditionally english' person but for someone like me this has a lot of added meaning. Am I supposed to say what area I live in or my ethnic background, are you asking me if I'm from Essex or if I'm Nigerian.

My experience growing up was a strange one to say the least, I went to a really good school so naturally it contained 98% white people. Me being a young black girl being brought up in this environment was definetly a challenge and it took me awhile to find myself. All my life I've had to deal with being seen as an oreo by black people but too black for the white people. Yeah I had all the common issues, whenever I would get my hair done, I would be asked if my hair had grown overnight, how I wash my hair with my braids in and general annoying questions. As a general rule if you have some questions about black hair don't ask me because I ain't gonna be the one to educate you, the only comment you should have on my hair is that it looks nice or just don't comment. One thing I am thankful about is that I went to a mostly black youth club, because this is where I got exposed to black culture, something I was highly deficient of in school Because I was so used ...

Now I would call myself a Power fan but with that in mind I've tried to be as objective as possible. One thing that we can't deny is that the show does not portray black people in the best light shows the destruction of the black family portrays that even successful black people can't reach those levels without criminal activity shows darkskinned woman left for lightskin foreign woman

brief description I think one of the main reasons I like the show is that it is a portrayl of the different stages of life people can be in, in their 20s. As someone not yet at that age level it is somewhat comforting to know that it's okay not to have everything together and that some people take longer than others to achieve their goals. I believe in this generation where you can tangiably see other people's succeses constantly bombarding you it can be easy to measure where your life is in comparison to theirs which is not always a healthy practice. Another thing the show champions which is the vital core is that of female friendships and learning to navigate your life. 

Now I'm not going to pretend I havent been on the bandwagon for some of these cancellings of people but at the time I never really pondered the overall impact fostering a culture like this could have on society. It seems like every day there's a new person being dragged all across timeline with thousands of previous fans now vowing to never support their work again. On the one hand some of these people have done horrible things, such as people who have perpetrated sexual assault or have been discriminatory towards people. The cancelling of people such as this doesn't bother me as there work doesn't deserve to be supported. However increasingly there seems to be the resurfacing of old tweets that shows some celebrities saying offensive things. Often times this was years ago and they claim to have grown since then and no longer share these views. I'm sure that a lot of the ignorant things we thought when we were younger we no longer think now and we can all recogni...